Fearless Loving ~ Forgiveness by Sundance & Katie

That which we fear the most is the cracking open of the heart. Why, because all of us have vivid memories of suffering emotional pain and anguish at the hands of our fellow beings. Many of us have found our greatest betrayals to loving sourced in family experience. We fear love because what has passed for love in human life is not love at all. The selfishness of personal and collective egos is not love. Love is not greed, jealousy, lust, hate, arrogance, prejudice or any form of war, abuse and neglect. After thousands of years of mean-spirited human relations, most of our present population is psychically damaged and in need of healing compassion. This population doesn't have a high opinion of love or its power. We don't believe that love conquers all. In fact, we believe just the opposite, that love makes us vulnerable, weak and unable to protect ourselves. So, of course, we are wary of opening our hearts to life as it is. However, the truth is that we don't know what love is. We only know what it's not. Without this cracking open of the heart, real love cannot be directly experienced and thereby realized. Fearing your open heart simply keeps you from healing the past. Surrendering to fear sustains the dis-ease of all self-loathing and separation. Fear merely perpetuates this suffering endlessly. If you can recognize the role that fear is playing in your life, you just might decide to face this fear. This facing of fear is loving, but you cannot know this without your own encounter. So don't wait to be free from fear before giving your faith to this impulse to open. Allow all to be as it is, the presence of loving in the face of fear. This is fearless loving and as This, you are free.

Blessings,

Sundance

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Forgiveness

Love does not exist within the mind and its time. Trying to heal the past is a past fixation, so we are not present for the unconditional Love that we are. The mind-made self, the ego, has a lifetime of past experience. Those that are most troublesome seem to be the ones that we meet within our intimate relationships. All of the ego's rules, expectations, intentions, and lack of trust are based on past experience. The ego acquires knowledge from the past and applies the known to present experience. With each encounter, when others fall short of its expectations, it suffers and then closes down even more. After enough negative experiences, the ego may even generalize its experience with a few individuals to an entire class, such as "men." Now, it not only has a few individual enemies in the life experience, it also has an entire imaginary army, somewhere in the future that certainly will create more of the same. While fixated on the ego and its time, we seem to recreate the very thing that we want to escape. The ego projects into the future, its experience of the past, as present moment experience. Playing by the ego's rules of the game involves a never-ending loss of innocence. Of course, Innocence can never really be touched, since it is absolutely indestructible and perfectly within you right now. We just are not yet conscious of this Field, since the ego is mentally involved in the every day push and pull of the mind and its conditions for living each moment. True forgiveness has nothing to do with any other. One could say that you are the forgiveness for which the ego strives. When you of free of time, that is, free of the past, free of "me" and therefore free of some "other," truthfully when is forgiveness required? We are simply free in our refuge of timelessness. Other than perceived events that appear solely as mental images in the head on a chronological dateline, are you free right now? As Sundance mentioned above, are you truly available to offer True Compassion for all that appears, regardless of the face that it seems to be wearing? In our morning and nightly conversations on our lanai, Sundance has frequently asked, do we live in constant forgiveness for all that appears? Do people truly accept this moment just as it is? Let your heart crack open, face fear, and see if it is as the mind thinks. All Love ~ Katie

Beloved ~ Heart's Fulfillment by Sundance & Katie

Some beings are destined to be lovers. You can spot them a mile away. Society often labels them as love slobs, fools, or romantic warriors. The will do anything to realize their loving nature. They can be bloodied by judgment and harassed by skepticism but they never give up their quest. At sometime in their existence they have tasted true love. They know its richness, its vastness, its incomparable fulfillment of feeling within. They remember their radiant aliveness, the shine of a free heart outpouring itself. You might see them laughing wildly and crying at the very same instant. Their loving is so whole and global, so wondrously alive. These lovers are realists. They accept that love, real love, is unconditional. They clearly know that no-thing mental, emotional or physical can ever be perceived as true, if love is to be realized. Thus, forgiveness for lovers is not a dutiful effort but a natural reflex of relaxation and well-being. Their return to loving is as easy as receiving breath. They see no value in the egoic chase of security, comfort, power, fame and fortune. They have conscious experience with these things. They know the trick of temptation. They have witnessed the disappearance act many times...now you have it, now you don't. Loving is not dependent. Loving IS before anything happens. Loving is simply Spirit, the conscious life of All Being.

Thanksgiving

Sundance

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The Heart’s fulfillment is the only true answer for transforming relative love into the unconditional. Before awakening, I thought that I was a fractional part and was searching for someone to fill that empty space that always seemed to be there, whether I was alone or with another. I kept finding that no one could fill that space and I wrongly assumed that the problem was with the other.

Finally, I took responsibility and decided that surely something was just wrong with “me.” When I began observing “myself,” I discovered so many strange thoughts and realized that they were causing so many negative emotions. Unsuccessful at changing anyone else so that I could finally be happy, I just went on and on and on trying to fix “myself.” Nothing changed the discontentment, sense of sadness, and my inability to appreciate a sense of fulfillment.

Through grace alone I awakened. I don’t know about you, but I certainly did not do anything to deserve This. It simply appeared spontaneously, uncaused and happened all by itself. I suppose that you could say that I lost “Katie” in the process; that separate sense of self who felt empty and incomplete. However, when she disappeared what remained is only the beautiful radiance that is full and complete. In retrospect, it was only my false assumption that I was a fraction that was causing the illusion of lack.

As you so beautifully share above in the previous post, this Love is before anything happens, dazzling and complete, in and of itself. We were blessed to have both realized this completeness, before we met one another twenty years ago. This is why loving in not dependent as you say. It never needs to get somewhere and requires nothing to be whole, so it simply can never be threatened in any manner. This Thanksgiving Day, I am simply grateful, Beloved … Katie